Ah, the employee restroom. Rife with uncomfortable human interaction. I was in there a moment ago and a friend of mine (read: coworker I actually like very much. Would speak to her on the street even if they didn’t pay me to) was in there, drying her hands underneath one of those hot-air hand blower things.
IF you ever find yourself in a Ladies’ Restroom with another chick (whether you know her or not) and one of you is forced to use those reprehensible hand blowers, it is inevitable that ONE of you will say “Man, I hate these things! I can’t believe there’s no paper towel!” Then the other girl will nod in agreement. You’ll proceed to giggle, smile, and bee-bop through some inane small talk. Probably about makeup and boys. (I made up that last part).
I’ve decided that next time I’m using a forced-air hand dryer and the other chick says “Man I hate those things….” I’m gonna go “Yeah, me too” and then rub my wet hands on her sweater. Why not? As women we try to make friends with each other, even in the most nonsensical situations (like in the bathroom) and I think it’s abnormal and weird.
I’m joking of course – I would never rub my hands on another chick (unless there’s alcohol involved and she’s built like Rihanna) but my point is: however pleasant or casual the exchange between myself and another human, I will ALWAYS find a way to ruin it. Like in eleventh grade when the dude I had a MASSIVE crush on answered a question wrong in history class. I raised my hand and gave the correct answer , which was “The British are coming!” And then I looked at him and playfully added “to call you stupid” ……I laughed. He did not. Moment ruined.
Yesterday I went to the bank and the woman behind the counter was complaining about dark circles under her eyes. Her exact statement was “Why do I always look so TIRED? What is UP with these black circles? I look like Mike Tyson punched me!” ……and then she just stared at me. Demanding a response with her gaze. I froze. I wasn’t sure what sort of retort you’re supposed to offer up in a situation like this. Cuz she DID look tired. She DID have black circles. And if Mike Tyson were there, I would’ve asked him to punch her just so I didn’t have to speak.
So here’s the best I could do: “Sometimes it’s hard to sleep at night when it stays light so late in the evening.” WHAT, LISSA?! What the f%#k kinda response is THAT???? Oh……right. I forgot – you’re an idiot. I can’t bring myself to do the “woman” thing and reassure another chick that she looks awesome, when obviously she doesn’t. So instead I concoct a statement that is in NO way contributing anything to the conversation, yet it lets us move along to another topic. Moment ruined.
She looked at me, tipped her head to one side like a dog, and then changed the subject. And this, in itself, is a PERFECT example of why I don’t have a lot of female friends. In situations where there’s a common understanding of what you should and should NOT say, I will find a way to say the wrong thing. Sorry Eye-Circle Lady. I’m sure the next customer in line reassured you that you are truly radiant as a person. I, on the other hand, just wanted two rolls of quarters for my laundry. I’ll try to do better next time. Story of my life.
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